We Ask the Guys: Can a Booty Call Ever Blossom?
Advice from three of EMandLO.com's guy friends.
This week a straight woman asks,"If a guy's in a booty call relationship with a woman, is there a chance he'd ever want to actually date her, could it ever blossom into something more?"
Gay Single Guy (Jay Dyckman):
The bottom line in any booty call relationship is that there's no chance it'll become something more while it's ongoing. The only way for a booty call relationship to blossom into something more is to Cut. Off. That. Booty. Shut it down. Pull up the pants. Get out the Do Not Enter sign underwear. No one buys the cow when they're getting milked for free. If there's really something there, a booty embargo should answer whether the person is really interested in being with you.
Straight Single Guy (
Tyler Barnett): Most guys have that one girl that they know they can call -- after a few drinks, late at night, they're lonely -- to come over and hit the sheets. Typically he has no interest in taking things any further with her. If he did, he'd be taking her out on dates, calling her to spend time with her, being available before midnight, etc. Any woman who is hoping to take her booty call down the aisle (or at least to meet the parents some day) needs to realize she is the one making herself available on demand, hence resigning herself to booty-call status. If that's what she wants then great. If she is expecting it to turn into something more, she needs to speak up. The truth from him might hurt, but at least she'll know where she stands. CAUTION: Actions speak louder than words. If he tells you everything you want to hear and then continues the same booty-call behavior, this relationship is going nowhere.
Straight Married Guy (David Felsen): It's definitely possible for a booty call to blossom into a rose of relationship complete with babies and white picket fences. But a guy is going to struggle to convert that booty call into a relationship if he feels she only sees him as a stunt c--- ; unless she's willing to take things to the street, a restaurant or a theater, I don't see much of a future. The same goes for gals: if he's not willing to be seen in public with you, forget it. Also, if either party has bunny-boiling potential, forget it. Otherwise, I don't think anyone should rule out dating their booty call -- unless, of course, your booty call is your cousin. (This advice does not apply Alabamans.)
Our "wise guys" are a rotating group of contributors, some of whom wish to remain anonymous and some of whom like the attention. This week's Straight Married Guy is NY writer-comedian David Felsen; our Gay Guy is Jay Dyckman, an LA copywriter; and our Single Straight Guy is Tyler Barnett of Tyler Barnett PR in LA. To ask the guys your own question, click here. To ask the guys your own question, click here.
