While no one can truly know what's going on between the two people in a marriage, the media has been speculating about Khloé Kardashian and Lamar Odom's relationship problems for months. Yesterday, Khloé posted the above quote from Alice in Wonderland on Instagram, and earlier in the week, she dropped the "Odom" from her username. Though she hasn't publicly addressed what's going on in her relationship, all of these actions allude to the personal drama she's been going through while dealing with her husband's rumored addiction.
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When someone you love is clearly struggling, "You need to sit down with them in a place that's quiet, peaceful, and free of criticism. The whole thing has to start out with a non-shaming conversation, that you're there to be a friend and ally," Rosenberg says. Use "I" statements such as "I see through you're behavior that you're really hurting, and I want you to be happy." They may not always respond positively, so don't internalize any harsh words.
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Khloé Kardashian is very much in the public eye, but any woman dealing with a situation like this is likely to have friends and family members offering advice and wanting details. It's okay to ask them for space. "You can tell people that their support and advice is appreciated, but you need to choose for yourself how to accept and react to what's happening," advises Bill Farr, a relationship coach and author of The Power of Personality Types in Love and Relationships.
The way in which Khloé's reaching out shows how human she is, Kailen Rosenberg says. "She's saying 'Look, I'm in pain. I'm confused, but I'm taking care of myself by realizing that everyone's a little lost and a little crazy.'" It's okay to vent like this. "It's giving yourself permission to be where you are and feel what you're feeling so you can heal from it and move on."
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Ultimately, we have to remember that addiction is a disease, and not something Khloé can help Lamar with on her own. If someone you know is going through the same thing, it's important to reach out for help from professionals. You can find information about drug and alcohol hotlines, which will help you figure out the next steps, at recovery.org.
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