It is no secret that couples argue. One person says something that upsets the other, and the battle begins. A small fight often escalates into something bigger, causing intense strain in the relationship. Experts say that meditation can save the relationship - but does it actually work? According to a recent study from Northeastern University and Harvard University, meditation can improve compassion, an important trait when it comes to a strong partnership. With that thought in mind, I've rounded up some experts to explain why meditating will improve your love life:
1. It teaches you self-realization. Before jumping into a relationship, it's important to know who you are as an individual. But what happens after you meet the right person and begin to lose sight of who you once were? "A relationship that is strong will allow each individual to grow on their own, and maintaining a sense of self is vital for this growth," says spiritual life coach Michelle Brock. "Meditation, which to me means to sit, close your eyes, breathe and allow yourself to feel your emotions, is what allows us to discover what is really going on inside of us. This part of us is the unconscious - 'the inner self' - which is where the truth of who we really are resides."
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2. It helps strengthen your relationship. Additionally, self-realization through meditation actually improves your love life by introducing a spiritual element into the mix. "When we are born into a physical body, we are born into forgetfulness of our soul and our spirit," Brock explains. "Meditation leads to self-realization by helping us to remember who we really are: an eternal being who is here in order to learn, grow and evolve."
3. It's a stress reliever. After having one of those days where nothing seems to go right - you woke up late, got yelled at by your boss, and missed the train coming home - we often take our built up anger out on our partners. Dr. Scott Haltzman, Brown University psychiatrist and author of The Secrets of Surviving Infidelity, explains the negative impact of stress on a relationship: "When one family member is over-stressed, it can be contagious; others in the family have a hard time staying calm if just one person feels emotionally out of control. It can increase tension in the family and lower levels of happiness." When one person meditates, a sense of calmness entraps the marriage, which could be the cure to end the fighting.
4. It gives you a chance to bond with your partner. With the hustle and bustle of everyday life, it is often hard to set aside quality time with your significant other. "Shared activities are a large part of defining themselves as a couple," says Carl G. Hindy Ph.D., a clinical psychologist and marriage counselor. "Meditation puts you in the here and now. It can help stop what, for some people, is the constant churning of thoughts, fears, expectations, reactions, second-guessing, doubting and questioning. It brings about an inner quietness that may help hit the reset button for a time."
5. It can remind you what's most important. After being together for so long, it can often become difficult to focus on what really matters. There are so many responsibilities that come with relationships, but it doesn't have to be all work and no romance. "When two people are in love and connected on a soulful level, just sitting together in their own place of 'centeredness' and quiet allows each person to focus on the things that really matter in this world," says Kailen Rosenberg, a love and relationship coach. "It's a beautiful way to focus on love with one another while loving yourselves individually - all while staying on a path of balance and something higher in your relationship."
Lori is the Executive Editor of CupidsPulse.com, a first-of-its-kind website that takes the latest celebrity news and repackages it to help singles and couples navigate their love lives. She is a sought after relationship and entertainment expert who has been featured in The Wall Street Journal , Newsday, Chicago-Tribune, Working Mother, Woman's Day, Redbook, Parenting, and on Fox News, The Suze Orman Show, WebMD, Match,com, JDate, YourTango, and more. She's appeared in two books, 'No Excuses: 9 Ways Women Can Change How We Think about Power' by feminist icon Gloria Feldt and 'Cheat on Your Husband (With Your Husband)' by Andrea Syrtash. Using her knowledge of the entertainment industry and PR background, Lori launched CupidsPulse.com with the mission of bringing real-world perspective to the overly fantasized celebrity relationship stories saturating the news. Today, CupidsPulse.com has more than one million unique visitors per month.