6 Rude Things In-Laws Say to New Moms

nicole fabian-webernicole fabian-weberIt's pretty well-known that there are a litany of things no pregnant woman wants to hear. But did you know that there are some things no new mom wants to hear either? Sure, your heart is in the right place, but some statements and questions come off as annoying. Or rude. Or intrusive. Or all of the above.

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When are you having another one? Seriously? Are you really asking that already? 'Cause I thought I'd enjoy my child -- who hasn't even been alive for a year! -- a bit. And what's the big rush anyway? When you're dating, it's "when are you going to get married?" When you get married, it's "when are you going to have kids?" And then when you have a kid, it's "when are you going to have another?" Sheesh. Slow your roll.

Cherish every moment. He/she will be grown up before you know it. Thanks. I didn't realize time was going by at lightning speed right now -- and way to put a sad spin on things!

My kids are everything. I could have never gone back to work. Hmm. Well, my child is my everything, too. But I also do have goals of my own still, sooo guess we're at an impasse.

I could have never been a stay-at-home mom. I'd have gotten so bored. Here's one of the coolest things about the world: We're all different!

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(When baby's crying) Why don't you try XYZ? Babies cry. It's what they do. Usually, these suggestions come from a good place, but at the end of the day, no one knows their baby like mama. So, maybe just leave the soothing, etc. up to the parents.

When I had a baby, we did things differently. A classic in-law thing to say. Things are different now. I'm sure you didn't do things exactly like your parents did.

What annoying things have people said to you?


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Written by Nicole Fabian-Weber for CafeMom's blog, The Stir.

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