Is the Concept of "You Complete Me" Romantic -- or Unhealthy?

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by Marissa Gold



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Someone forwarded me an article by Akirah Robinson titled "Why I Told 150 Wedding Guests That My Husband Does Not Complete Me." It's a great article, and you should go read it, and here's the gist of it:

"As great as he is, Dan does not complete me. He certainly makes life funnier. Busier. Happier. And tastier. (Dan's a chef.) But he does not complete me. And I do not complete him. Our lives are so much bigger than each other."

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I have to admit, it sounds so liberating and rational, I want to agree with it. And part of me does. Of course, my inner feminist nods. Of course another person can't make you feel complete. But my inner romantic really hesitates to agree. I mean, I hate to reference Jerry Maguire (and you knew it was coming, didn't you?), but if a man you loved told you that you complete him, wouldn't you be flattered? And let's be honest: most of us, no matter how great and full our lives are, have spent at least a few nights wishing we had a special someone to spend them with, right?

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The message of the article is a good one: "[our] lives are so much bigger than [our] romantic relationships (or lack thereof)." Yes, they are. And I am all for helping women see that a breakup, divorce, or simply being single is not the end of the world (though it sometimes feels like it). But in reality, I know that most women really do daydream of a "you complete me" type of love, so it all comes down to this: There's nothing wrong with finding a guy who makes your life feel complete. Just don't let the wait hold you back from living and enjoying your life to the fullest before, during, and after this happens.

So, what do you think? Is it OK to feel like finding your special someone will "complete" your life in a way? I'd love to hear opinions!

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