Moms Share: The Nicest Things People Did for Me After My Baby's Birth

By Charlotte Hilton Andersen, REDBOOK

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That's the sort of thing you don't normally think about doing for someone, and yet right after my third child was born, I found myself weeping with gratitude when a good friend came over and did exactly that. As new moms, we hear "Let me know if you need anything" often from friends and family, but while it's well-intended, most moms won't call. Meals are always welcome, but here are other ideas from new moms about the nicest things people did for them after their babies were born:

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1. "My mom spent a few nights here and took care of Ella at night so that I could sleep." -Kristen

2. "A friend who lives in another city had several frozen pizzas delivered. We just had to pop them in the oven for a tasty meal." -Thea

3. "One day while I was at the pediatrician, my friend went to my home and cleaned the ENTIRE house while we were gone, without me knowing. We came home to a clean home, fresh bed sheets, and a wonderful dinner ready to eat... and she had already left." -Heather

4. "Coming over to visit with me. As a new mom it's hard to get adult interaction, so anytime a friend would come over and sit and gab with me I was always grateful." -Lizzy

5. "A friend got me a gift card for a post-baby massage." -Brandy

6. "I always really appreciate it when someone takes the time to listen for the answer when they ask, 'How are you?'" -Laura

7. "Take my older son to do something fun while I rested and recovered with the new baby." -Colleen

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8. "Help is much easier to accept when it's 'forced' upon me, like the friend who says, 'I'm bringing you dinner on Tuesday, let me know when is a good time,' vs. The friend who says, 'Let me know if there's anything you need,' putting the responsibility (and hormone-laced guilt) on me." -Michelle

9. "Just smiling and telling me that everything was gonna be alright was good enough for me." -Audrey

10. "I had a friend that made spa appointments for the two of us for just weeks after my son's arrival. The date arrived; I tried to bow out with all the typical excuses: too much to do, need to wash my hair, etc. She refused to take 'no' for an answer and kidnapped me for the afternoon. Best. Day. Ever." -Bekki

11. "I appreciated when people didn't bat an eyelash at the fact that I was still in my pajamas and that the older kids were eating chocolate milk powder in the middle of the afternoon." -Laura

12. "My mom and sister would come over and I would be sent to bed. Knowing that someone would be holding my little one while I slept was really reassuring and I was able to sleep for an hour or so!" -Natalie

13. "Our bishop [clergy person] brought by flowers the day we miscarried. I don't even think we had told him about it." -Mark

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14. "My mom weeded the garden outside the kitchen window. I had been in the hospital and on bed rest for several months and couldn't do any gardening. Just having something beautiful to look at was a blessing!" -Allison

15. "Babysitting early on when the baby is very small. I so enjoyed the reprieve of just going to the grocery store alone, or running some errands!" -Jeni

What was the nicest thing someone did for you after your baby was born?

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