My Online Birth Club: The Sisters I Never Had

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I don't have a sister and when I gave first to my first baby, I was the first among my friends to become a mother. I was alone. I was clueless. It was ugly.

Then I discovered my online birth club.

Online birth clubs provide the opportunity to connect with other pregnant women who are due to deliver the same month you are. Club members typically post about their pregnancy joys, fears and everything in between allowing you to compare notes, ask questions and learn from each other. Birth clubs can be joined at any time, regardless of whether you are expecting or have already given birth.

Truthfully, I had reservations about joining a birth club because I'm a little shy with strangers (no, really) and feared outsider branding. I joined my birth club when my eldest was 3 months old because I had very few young mothers to turn to for the support I so desperately needed. To my delight, my birth club members were exceptionally warm and welcoming. The club took tremendous pride in its membership and there was a time when our birth club was nearly 600 members strong. Wow, 600 mothers going through the exact same things I was at the exact same time? Hallelujah!

I even had the opportunity to meet up with locals from my birth club for baby dates!


As a first time mom, my online birth club was absolutely vital to my survival in my first year of motherhood. I was a paranoid shell of a mom, asking at least 5 questions a day about poop, vomit and infant athlete's foot (I wish I was kidding). The best part of my birth club was that no question was too stupid or too personal to ask, and if it was, fellow members never made me feel that way.

Even if you never post, it never hurts to poke around your birth club and read what your fellow moms are saying. The experience you gain will not only offer you a tremendous amount of comfort (remember, infant's athletes foot); it will enrich your motherhood experience to learn from your fellow mothers.

I am all about savoring memories and making good Mommy Friends. I've never been the master of anything and motherhood is no exception. I'm learning as I go, just like you. For that reason, it's sure nice to know I'm in good company and that support is only a click away .

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