By Lori Berger, REDBOOK
Yes, there are men in the movie What to Expect When You're Expecting. And they have opinions! Read on for their nuggets about dads, dating, delivery, and more.
On labor and delivery: "My dad is a midwife, so I grew up hearing all these stories. I was so scared of sex! He'd show me every possible venereal disease and say, 'I delivered a 14-year-old's baby today.' When I was a senior in high school, I helped him deliver two babies. In fact, I want my dad to deliver my baby--what a great story that would be for my child to tell, that his grandfather brought him into this world. Though obviously, my wife would have to be okay with it!"
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On sex and dating: "As a guy, a lot of your job is defining what the relationship is before anything physical happens. You have to talk about expectations and where this is going, and let the other person know what you want. Being a man is a lost art--most men don't have a clue. It's being responsible for a woman's feelings, getting outside of your immediate animal needs and caring about where the other person is coming from."CHASE CRAWFORD
On strong women: "I'm not threatened by successful women. There's sometimes the sense that she's out of your league, so you don't want to risk the rejection. But I've been around women who are very outspoken, and I think that's the most attractive quality. When a girl knows what she wants, the guy's going to respect you, and he's going to come running."
On the modern dad: "I can't be friends with a guy who's not a decent father. You don't have to be as hard-core as me, but honestly, 80 percent of the job is just showing up. I had kids late, for where I'm from. And the moment I had one, I thought, Why didn't I have these kids earlier? I wish I'd done it 10 years earlier--really. I don't understand guys who talk about all these things they can't do because they have kids. I've never been with my kids and thought, Man, I wish I was on stage now. It's the other way around. Kids, they love you to a fault, even if you're a bad parent. That's the crazy part! They don't know how not to love you--for 16 years. It's pretty unbelievable."
On settling down: "My mom and my dad are still together, but so many of my friends who got married just a few years ago aren't. Maybe it's that we compare ourselves to our parents' generation, thinking, Who's still together, and are they happy? The world we live in now, there's so much more access [to other people] and that makes it difficult to make a choice. You always wonder: What about this one? Or that one? But there is no perfection. And I will not be waiting forever."
On helicopter parenting: "We're so under the gun now--there's all these classes and this constant 'Did you take your kid to that thing that's going to change their lives? Because if you didn't take them to the Long Beach Aquarium today, their lives aren't going to be the same!' When I was a kid, we sat around the house. If I got bored, I'd have to figure out something to do. Now there's this: 'My kid has to be stimulated, learn French by age 4, and take piano.' I think our kids would be better off if we took some of that pressure off."
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