The Secret to a Good Sex Life for Moms? Clear Out the Kids' Toys!
After having kids, it's not easy to find the energy -- or the time for sex. After carting the kids to and from playdates and finally getting the baby to sleep, sex is probably the last thing on your mind.
Let's be honest-it's hard to get in the mood when there are wipes, diaper changing pads, stuffed animals, and little plastic toys scattered around the house. It's no surprise you can't keep the romance alive when your house smells like diapers!
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But the truth is that sex is a big part of healthy relationships. If you want to remain close to your partner (and feel good about yourself), you need to start thinking about ways to bring back the spark.
Here's our relationship advice:
If you want a healthy relationship, give yourself some adult space. Try to keep your bedroom as romantic and kid-free as possible. (In fact, it's probably not a bad idea to work really hard at making it YOUR space.) Think 'adult'. Think 'restful'. And, go ahead, think 'sex life.'
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To create a romantic bedroom ambiance that screams Oh, Mama! instead of just "Mommy," try these tips:
Place a small vase of flowers or a blooming plant and a candle on your dresser.
Play soothing and sexy music you'll want to snuggle under the covers to.
Use warm colors for the walls and bedding, soft lights, and some favorite photos of you doing something besides parenting for a truly romantic bedroom experience.
Pull out your prettiest lingerie (or buy yourself some)- and actually making a pact to wear it at least a couple of nights a week.
Don't change diapers on your bed. You don't want the lingering smell of poop to distract you while you're trying to get in the mood!
And finally, take a minute to clear away all of the board books, bottles, and binkies in your room. 'Cause, honestly? There's nothing sexy about a slobbery "Moo Baa La La La!"
What's your advice? How do you keep romance alive now that you're a mom?
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