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The heck with "date night"
The heck with "date night"-
How long have you been with your partner? Are you starting to feel like the spark has left your marriage? Don't stress ... we feel your pain! It's totally normal to feel like your marriage has fallen into a rut. That's why we compiled these 7 tips to put the chemistry back into your relationship. Try them ... you won't be dissapointed ...
Don't do it - or feel bad that you don't - just because you're "supposed to," especially if you just wind up staring into each other's eyes and talking about flu shots. You can do that at home - with much cheaper drinks. One Manhattan mother of two reports that for their big (recession-friendly) nights in, she and her husband get takeout and sip (chug) cheap bubbly from their fancy flutes. ("A flute just feels eventful," she says.) If you can afford it, do go out when you can. And do it with childless friends or go to an absorbing show or movie - anything that gets you out of the axis of parent. And if nighttime sitting (or being catatonic at 9 p.m.) is an issue, heck, squeeze in a date-morning, meet for lunch. "It's all about breaking the routine," says couples therapist Esther Perel, author of Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic. "Family life depends on consistency and predictability. Romance and the erotic are about everything else."