How to Stop Comparing and Be Happy with Your Own Self
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I was heading from my hotel room to the pool in a skimpy towel that barely covered my even skimpier bikini, feeling pretty good about myself, when Angelina Jolie stepped into the elevator. (I swear! It was really her!) Instantly, my self-confidence plummeted.
Of course, I don't need to be side-by-side with a movie star to feel lousy. I've gotten bummed measuring myself against more flexible classmates in yoga or while reading about everyone's fabulous life on Facebook.
Clearly, the drive to compare is human, and, yes, it can spur us to push ourselves harder. But experts say it can also lead to bad decision making, insecurity and even depression. In one study, when job applicants sat in the same room as a fake candidate dressed in a suit, carrying a briefcase (and a philosophy book!), they felt less sure about themselves.
Enough already. Cut yourself some slack, and curb the urge to measure up with these tips, so you can be happy with your own self. -Araina Bond
If you're convinced everyone else is richer, smarter and better built, know this: Those people are probably thinking the same about you. Say it with us-the comparing stops here.
Former New York Yankees left-hander Fritz Peterson died at the age of 82. He is probably best known exchanging wives with teammate Mike Kekich in the 1970s.