Sex: The reason why money breaks up friendships but not romances

Have you noticed that when it comes to dating, you and your significant other seem to be on the same page about who spends what and when? On the other hand, when it comes to hanging out with your pals, the subject of cash flow sometimes causes all sorts of unexpected issues. There is something to be said for the millions of friendships that have dissolved over the almighty dollar. Why is it that these particular breakups are so prevalent?

And the answer is…

Sex--pure and simple. Unfortunately, in many regards sex has become "currency". Man takes woman on a series of dates. Man and woman have sex. A relationship ensues. The series of dates becomes "shared meals". You can see where we're going with this: a shopping trip with the girls will only last a few hours. But having a nightly cuddle buddy is priceless.

Two for the price of one…

Couples are seen as a unit. "What's mine is yours." This is pretty much the sentiment that exists within the romantic relationship. When you are a couple, resources are shared almost automatically - because for one - you're always together. A certain intimacy exists with your significant other that doesn't with your best friends. You and your BFF may be inseparable; but ultimately, you are still viewed as separate parties.

If you want to get rid of a friend…

When friends loan money to other friends, it is expected that they will see that money again. The reality is that they may not. That's probably why It is said that the quickest way to get rid of a buddy is to loan him or her some cash. If for any reason your pal is unable to pay it back by the time promised, he/she will feel guilty and avoid you until the debt is repaid. The slippery slope occurs when that avoidance grows into distance; and the distance becomes a broken friendship. There is no sexual interaction to cushion the blow of dealing with someone who is sharing your resources.

It all comes down to this…

Don't be mistaken; couples do split up over financial problems. But friends are more likely to take competitiveness to an intense level. Troubles arise when one friend doesn't have the kind of resources to participate in certain activities. But in some social circles finding a workaround isn't necessarily a priority.

That romance blurs things would be an understatement. But at the very least, one can say that people are more willing to overlook tangible things when they feel fulfilled in deeper emotional ways. People in relationships feel less compelled to compete with one another for "rank".

The irony…

Women in particular are fiercely competitive. Perhaps this is why it's believed that ladies dress more for each other than they do for the men they date. How ironic is that? But if you're wondering why that is, the answer might be simpler than you think.

Women love clothes. But men love women out of them.

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