Learning how to deal with speed bumps that arise in your relationship is not always easy, especially when they deal with members of the family. Many women face problems with in-laws, and they don't know how to solve them. Unfortunately not everything can be fixed. I have been with my husband almost four years, and I have been in more than my fair share of complicated situations. These are some tips on how to deal with issues that arise in the family.
Let it go
When women get mad, it can make for a lousy day. Anger is not something you should keep bottled up, but letting it out may do more harm. You need to consider what you stand to lose if you don't just let the problem go. This was a lesson I learned firsthand, but still have a hard time grasping. There have been many times where I have wanted to burst out and say what was on my mind, but that only would have cause more problems. I have let a lot of it go, but there are still a few things I am hanging on to because there has been no resolution.
Don't make him choose
If you are dating or married to a family-oriented man, you will understand the frustrations about his family. Never put him in a position where he thinks he has to choose between you or one of them. Each and every time he will pick the other side. I have gone over this multiple times, and once I stopped giving him an ultimatum, he finally saw what I saw. Men don't like being told what to do, and pressuring them is even worse. Avoiding this altogether is the best option, and will leave you less upset in the end.
Cut out the problem
This is one that can be hard, especially if he is close to the one giving you the trouble. When this happened to me, I simply cut all ties. I blocked Facebook, the cell phone, and anything else I could think of. It eliminated the issue for me, and my husband was still able to keep in contact with the person. While it is not the ideal way to go about things, it has also worked for several friends of mine. What you can't see or hear will not bother you.
These three things will help you to get rid of some of the issues you have, or at least cope with the situation at hand better. As the saying goes, you can pick your friends but not your family. In this case, you can't pick who his family is either.
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