Most married couples, especially those with children, deal with the "chore wars" - arguments over who does what in the household. We're all so busy, and the chores never seem to end - it becomes inevitable that couples will argue over who does what.
Here are a few tips to help prevent chore wars:
- Communication. What is an acceptable level of cleanliness? Couples with one neat freak and one messy person may just simply disagree on what "clean" means.
- Division of Labor. Decide on division of chores (factoring in outdoor chores as well as indoor chores).
- Don't Nag. Nagging never works, and just leads to resentment. Simply have a reasonable discussion if things aren't working as discussed.
- Be Flexible. If one spouse is sick or has a heavy workload at work, work together to get things done. Remember to reevaluated the chore division if your situation changes in any way (new job, new baby, etc).
- Be Nice. Once and a while, surprise your spouse by doing a chore that isn't yours.