Can Growing Up in a 'Broken Home' Ruin You For the Game of Love?

By GalTimer Staci Cox

Being raised in a single home may affect the way you feel about love. The original plan for most is to meet their significant other, fall in love and start a family. But what happens when things don't go as planned? What happens when two people have sexual relations without the "relationship" and a baby is born? The baby is born into a broken home traveling between parents. Often times, the new bundle of joy is left with only one parent to raise him/her, and in most cases the mother.


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A friend of mine once said, "The hardest woman to love is one without a father, because she is expecting the man to leave". I grew up in a fatherless home surrounded by women who love and support me. I noticed the friends who were raised in a two-parent household shared different views about love and relationships. As a single woman who was raised in a single parent home, I'm more carefree and independent, which leads me to think differently about dating or a relationship. However, a few of my friends who were raised in a two-parent household are more dependent, and have more patience when it comes to sustaining a relationship.

Most young girls first love is her father, and is ideally the man she would compare her own husband, too. Without a father around who will she use as a model for her own future husband? This is where the "carefree" cycle begins, and unfortunately becomes harder to end, as the girl gets older. Although love is important, independence is more appealing.

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Naturally, I have a shining armored shield and a puppy to protect me against the broken heart I personally endured starting from my single household. I think this has affected my personal relationships with whomever I'm dating. I'm trusting, but very cautious and that's not always a good approach to someone you may possibly spend the rest of your life with. In fact this can pevent happiness or true love.

How can one model their life for true love without a home example? I've learned that it takes more patience and more effort than what I've been putting into my relationships. In the past, I'dl expect the worst, but hope for the best. I thought this was a good approach, but in reality doing the same things over expecting a different result is insanity.

Unfortunately, the missing void in your heart from a single home can never be replaced, but doesn't have to model your own life. Instead of reflecting back to what's happened in the past, try and focus on starting a new beginning for yourself. End the cycle and open your heart for the pursuit of happiness and love will shortly follow.

What's your best advice for moving on towards healthy relationships if you were raised in a single parent home?

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