Divide the Wedding Guest List (and the Drama)


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Every engaged couple experiences The Great Guest List Debate; it's practically a rite of passage. Cut your drama in half by following these tips below.

1. Make a Rough Count ASAP: No matter how long your engagement is, deciding what your guest count will be should take place fairly early on when planning. This will allow you to determine your budget and select your venue; more importantly, it could help you avoid serious conflict that some brides and grooms-to-be face during their wedding-day preparations.

2. Honesty is the Best Policy: Although money matters can be difficult to discuss, I recommend that brides speak openly with their parents about the wedding budget, which could help avoid conflict later on. Michael and I asked both sets of parents to invite up to 50 guests each (our total count is 150), which they (thankfully) didn't have any issues with. Please bear in mind that if you are fortunate enough to have your parents pay for your nuptials, it would be in poor taste to limit the amount of guests they can invite. Just be sure that you, your fiancé, and your in-laws are each allowed to invite a fair number of guests.

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3. "And You Are?" This is a phrase that no bride should ever have to repeat on her wedding day. For Michael and I, our rule is pretty simple: If we don't know you, you aren't invited to our wedding. In my opinion, family members that you've never met, coworkers of your fathers that aren't sure of your name, and the random guy your friend is hooking up with this week should not be included on your guest list. We're only inviting dates of friends who are mutually exclusive for a substantial amount of time (six months is a good guideline), living together or married (duh).

4. Table for Two…or Six…or Eight…Maybe Ten: You've gone through the hassle of creating this guest list, but how do you even begin to organize it? I recommend creating tables of eight to ten people. The more guests you have at your tables, the less tables you'll need, which will result in less centerpieces (saving you precious cash).

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5. Consider Relationships When Creating the Seating Chart: You would hate for your college roommate to feel uncomfortable for the entire evening because you accidentally sat her with her former BFF. If you are unable to fit a particular group of friends together due to size, situate the tables next to each other to ensure that the two tables can mingle easily throughout the night. Also consider eliminating the great divide (i.e. your family on one side, his family on the other). Your wedding day is all about the merging of two families, so why not start this trend literally at the reception?

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Crista asks: How many people are you inviting to your wedding? What's the best advice you've ever heard for creating your guest list?

-Crista Camerlengo

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