The Genius Guide to FAKE Confidence

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Over email, it's pretty easy to mask any nerves or anxiety. Ultimately, the tough part here is really that you're trying to set yourself apart from the deluge of applications and ... more 
Photo by: Refinery29
Over email, it's pretty easy to mask any nerves or anxiety. Ultimately, the tough part here is really that you're trying to set yourself apart from the deluge of applications and emails your potential boss is wading through. Williams says, "The stress that comes from using email to get the interview is based in the fact that you feel as if you have to start selling yourself from word one."

So, shift the focus. Make it about what you can do for them from moment one. "The secret isn't to start with you; it's to start with them," says Williams. "Show you've done your research on why you are writing them in particular - it's a form of flattery. If you open with a sentence that pertains to your prospective employer, they will most likely continue reading on to the second sentence, which is further than they'll read on the majority of the other emails in their inbox."

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Mon, Jan 6, 2014 11:16 AM EST
By Neha Gandhi, Refinery29

Anyone who tells you they feel super confident all the time is, well, a big, giant liar. We all have moments of doubt and moments when our nerves get the best of us. And, in situations where, say, you're trying to score a job interview or impress someone in said interview, those flashes of self-doubt can be incredibly inconvenient.

That's when you need to learn to fake it. Not in a plastered-on-smile, Stepford Wife way. More in a get-what-you-deserve way. Because, ultimately, the whole "fake it 'til you make it" cliché stems from something real, and the advice ahead, from Nicole Williams, Secret's career confidence coach (and the in-house career pro over at LinkedIn), proves it.

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Click through for real-life advice that'll get you through everything from a blind online job application to an in-person interview and even the start of a new job (you know, after you nailed the interview) - without melting into a puddle of anxiety. Or, you know, something a little less dramatic but equally debilitating.

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