On 9/11, remember those who survived and lost

September 11 anniversary nears, grief therapist and author Allison Daily talks about her friendship with a 9/11 survivor and how even 10 years can't change the events of that day

I met Sharon when she read an article about the book my husband and I wrote, Out of the Canyon: A True Story of Loss and Love. She wrote me an e-mail and eventually we talked by phone. After our first conversation, I remember turning the phone off on that warm August 2009 day, sitting under my favorite tree in the yard and weeping. The story she told ripped me to my very core and will never be sewn shut.

Sharon was on the 80th floor in one of the World Trade Center's twin towers on Sept. 11, 2001, and while I will not go into details, her horrific journey to survival that day was so far beyond what my soul could imagine, that all I could do was listen in silence and disbelief. I read many stories after 9/11 and the heroic measures of courage that took place. My friend Sharon went through extensive therapy and emotional work. She has not only continued to grieve her own losses and the images she carries in her head but she also lost her only daughter in 2006.

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Osama bin Laden was killed, I wondered how that would affect her grief. Was she elated? Did she feel as if some justice had been served? We e-mailed and I realized that for her and, probably many of the others, it was a prayer answered. It was a victory for them, for all of the United States, but it didn't bring any of those loved ones back, or cause any of the memories to go away.

I'm a writer and a grief therapist. When someone goes through a traumatic event or a sudden loss, often times the human body builds an invisible wall around the heart and mind to protect the person. To continue reading, click here.

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