Dispatches From An(Almost)Empty Nest
by Catherine Goldhammer
When I first read the book cover, back and front, I thought, uh oh,
I don't think I can relate to this book, this woman or her life.
If this is about getting ready for the "empty nest " thingie,
I cannot relate, I have never had children, however...
I love this book! First of all she is a very gifted "painter" with her
words and I love that. She confesses to have 'imaginary lives' at
times, doing that "what if I had chosen this one? What if I had
married this man? What if I lived in another place, had chosen a
different path professionally?" Who of us hasn't done that?
I know I have...still do
As she faces the upcoming empty nest. to me, she begins to
remember and find herself again, who she was before...
before the husband, the child. We do tend to loose ourselves as
we progress through this life, becoming what others need
or want us to be and sadly, we often put ourselves on the
back burner until one day we can't remember where that
backburner even is.
There are some great lines in this book.Catherine had
reconnected with an old love from days long ago,
twenty five years later! And they had been emailing each other.
As she is writing about this new/old relationship,one section
leaped out at me, it was on page 38. He had written her an
email in which he had told her...
" that a renewed relationship could work out.
'You don't know that it won't,' he said.
"And I don't know that it will. But life is grasping at straws
and maybe I want to grasp at this one'.
He was right. Neither of us knew.
But I didn't want to be a straw to grasp at." Love that line!
What did this say to me personally? That when at last you find
yourself again, your true self, don't look back, except to learn from it,
and don't settle for what is known and comfortable.
Be brave and go forward, the unknown is waiting!
This book is lively and honest and you better start reading it
with plenty of time to spare and nowhere else you need to be,
because you will want to read it through without stopping.
Copyright 2008, published by Penguin Group
Plume Printing September 2009
Soft cover:173 page count
Suggested retail: $13.00
for more info: www.catherinegoldhammer.com