Rep. Anthony Weiner's wife Huma Abedin doesn't need advice like this

Huma Abedin attends an event at the Upendo Women's Cooperative group on June 12, 2011 in Mlandizi, Tanzania, during Secretary of State Hillary Clinton's five-day day official visit to Africa. (Photo: Susan Walsh-Pool/Getty Images) Huma Abedin attends an event at the Upendo Women's Cooperative group on June 12, 2011 …The internet is filling up with advice for Huma Abedin, wife of infamous Tweeter (and democratic Congressman from New York) Anthony Weiner. Last week, Vanity Fair offered up their two cents, and it seems like it came straight from the "Mad Men" era. Here's a look at their advice-and why we think it's way off base.

"Cut back on the travel. You're pregnant, for heaven's sake!" As plenty of working moms know, when business travel is part of your job, you can't just "lighten the load and stay home," as the Vanity Fair columnist advises. (Though, if she were jet-setting just for fun, we'd totally encourage her to keep doing it. World travel is much easier when your carry-on isn't a diaper bag.) Seriously, though: Women have spent decades trying to prove to their employers that pregnancy doesn't make them worth less than male employees, and now you want this high-profile professional to use her growing belly as an excuse to stay home? Really? We assume she cleared her trip with her doctor. She doesn't need to clear it with the media.

"Spend some time with your husband." It's 2011. Haven't we moved past the age of blaming the wife for the husband's transgressions? Is Vanity Fair stumping for the Obedient Wives Club? Right now, much of the world thinks that Weiner is kind of a creep; we totally understand if his wife does, too. But it's worth noting that, during his massive mea culpa, Weiner said: "My wife has known about some of these online relationships since before we were married." In that case, more "face time," as the column suggests, wouldn't have changed a thing. What if cyber sex and texting is what makes their marriage more than just semi-happy?

"Get him to shut up."
Abedin, 34, is not responsible for 45-year-old Weiner's actions now any more than she was for his decision to take the pictures and send them. Let him figure out how to talk his way out of this (or not) himself.

"Remember you're not Hillary. And that her experience is not yours." We're not even sure what this is supposed to mean. That Abedin isn't as important as her boss? That she's not obligated to stay with her husband for the sake of the nation? Yes, Hillary Clinton stayed with her husband through the whole Monica Lewinsky scandal. Rep. Weiner's ego-maniacal Tweeting, however prurient, is not on the same level as a soiled blue dress. Whether Abedin should stay or go has nothing to do with who her role model-or her boss-is.

"Focus on the baby." But wait, there's more: "You're expected to go to all the parenting Web sites and bulletin boards to chart and discuss your symptoms. On the Internet-unlike your husband-no one will know who you are." So, she should distract herself from the media inquiries and her career and the fact that her husband's junk is now part of the public domain by browsing for onesies and griping about heartburn anonymously online? We're sorry, but... what? She should focus on the baby, sure-by taking care of herself, not by accepting that her sole identity has to be either "Mrs. Anthony Weiner" or "Mommy." Abedin was recently named one of Time magazine's "40 under 40" civic leaders and rising stars of American politics. The only way she can be anonymous online, regardless of her husband's actions, is if she chooses to be.





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